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Top 5 Dating Tips for Women

January 16, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice for Women No comments

Are you trying to land the perfect guy?  Are you looking for someone who will truly commit to you?  If so, follow these 5 Dating Tips for Women.

#1 – Don’t bring up an ex on an early date.

Ignore this dating tip at your own peril.  If you talk about an ex on one of your first dates, he is going to conclude that you either are not over your last boyfriend or that you are bitter.  In either case, he is not likely to want to get involved with someone who still talks about an ex.

Instead, focus on the man you are with.  Find out what he is interested in and what makes him tick.  Men are very selfish.  They want to talk about themselves, not the last guy you were with.

#2 – Be yourself

Too many women try to “impress” a guy by being someone they are not.  Unfortunately, you won’t be able to keep up the façade.  Instead, you are likely to revert to being yourself.  But if you have led him to believe that you are someone else, he will feel tricked.  While you want to put your best face forward, you ultimately have to be comfortable in your own skin.

#3 – Don’t talk about the future too soon

One of the biggest Dating Tips for Women is to not project a guy you are just getting to know into the future.  You shouldn’t bring up your desire for marriage and children on a first date!  Beyond that, don’t start fantasizing about “happily ever after,” because you will soon work these dreams into your conversations with the new guy.  Instead, have fun and enjoy the guy’s company.  If things seem compatible after a length of time, you still have time to work on the “relationship.”

#4 – Accept compliments

This scenario happens over an over.  A man meets a woman and says the first thing on his mind, “you look nice.”  The woman blushes and starts to explain just how much is wrong with the way she looks.  The hairdresser messed up the cut, the blouse she wanted to wear was at the drycleaner, and so on.

Guess what?  He doesn’t care!  He just thinks you look nice.

The only proper response to a compliment is “thank you.”

#5 – Have opinions

Too many Dating Tips for Women stress that you should always agree with your date.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.  It doesn’t bode well to fall for a guy who only wants a sycophant.  In the long run, you are going to want to be with a man who is strong enough to accept your opinions.  In fact, you want someone who will value your opinions and look to you for advice.  If you don’t have this, the relationship will be unsatisfactory to you.  So, don’t start the relationship by pretending that you don’t have any opinions.

So, those are my top five dating tips for women.  Keep them in mind the next time you go out with a man you are attracted to.

10 Dating Tips For Women

January 2, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice for Women No comments

In case you haven’t heard, there are new rules on the romance scene.  Here are my 10 best dating tips for women.

1.)    Never talk about an ex on an early date with a new guy.  Your date will either think that you are not over the old guy and not ready to commit to a new relationship or he will think that you are a bitter and angry person.  In either case, there won’t be any future in the relationship.

2.)    Don’t play games.  If you think you have to play a role to catch a guy, he’ll never be yours in the long run.  You can’t keep up the “girl next door” or the “sex kitten” role if that’s not really you.

3.)    Don’t trap a guy early.  In the early stages of a relationship, a guy isn’t interested in developing a long range plan.  He just wants to spend time with you to get to know you.  If you start talking about marriage and children too soon, you’ll scare him off.

4.)    Accept the compliments he offers you.  Men like to give complements.  And they like for you to accept them.  When he says “you look nice,” the correct response is “thank you.”  You shouldn’t try to deflect the compliment or tell him all of the reasons that you don’t look good.

5.)    Be honest with your opinions.  Too many women think they have to agree with everything a man says in order to land him.  In fact, most men like a woman who has her own opinions on some things.  While you can be agreeable, it’s okay to express your opinion and have views about things.

6.)    Be positive on the date.  A date is supposed to be a fun social occasion not a therapy session.  Don’t go on ad nauseum about how your mom nags you or your boss is overbearing.  Try to show your date a good time.

7.)    Be prepared to move on.  Too many women see a single date as a lifetime commitment.  If you don’t hit it off with a guy, that’s okay.  Just move on.  Be secure that you have something to offer the right guy and don’t hang on to one that is not right for you.

8.)    Don’t try a “style” experiment before a first date.  If you are nervous about going out with a guy, a dramatic change in your hair style, color, or make up is only going to make you more nervous not less.

9.)    If you feel stumped regarding what to talk about, ask him about his work.  Men love to talk about themselves and they like to see themselves in the role of a great provider.  Whatever you do, don’t drone on about yourself.  Give him opportunities to impress you, even if you are already impressed!

10.)    Never go out with a man a second time if he has made you uncomfortable on a first date.  Trust your instincts.  Don’t play with fire.  Move on if you have received bad vibes on a first date.

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Why You Know He Won’t Ring You

December 29, 2011 Rachel Dating Advice for Women No comments

You’re on your first date, a little nervous, trying to loosen up, so you have a martini –or two or three – before dinner. Then some wine with dinner. Suddenly you find yourself talking about your ex-boyfriend (he was such an asshole! Nothing like the guy you’re out with tonight!). And then that other ex-boyfriend (also an asshole), until you’ve given your date a drunken detailed primer to your former dating life. Don’t hold your breath waiting for a call about a second date.

We’ve all done our share of dating faux pas, and had to live to remember them. While they make for amusing fodder for Sunday brunch chatting with the girlfriends, it sucks to go on a date and completely ruin any future chances by falling into a typical dating trap. Drinking too much and talking about your ex are two surefire ways to ruin your chances of a second date.

Aside from giving detailed history lessons about your dating past, try to avoid being “emotionally slutty.” If it’s your first date, now is not the time to talk about all of the problems life has loaded upon you, like your parents’ divorce, your grandmother’s funeral, how you got fired from your job, the time when you were five and your puppy got hit by a car and died. It’s a first date – it should be fun, easy and exciting! Don’t bring it down by getting too serious. You’ll just freak the poor guy out – and bum yourself out.

While being an “emotional slut” is not advised, being just straight-up slutty is also a big No. I know, so cliché – but it’s true: Sleeping with a guy on the first date will make him (a) wonder, “how often does she do that!?” and (b) assume that you’re not a serious relationship kind of gal. Yes, there are times when a first-date sleepover can lead to future dates and a serious relationship but let’s be realistic – the relationship is most likely to progress to “booty call” status, if anything.

Aside from making yourself look like a fool, you can also freak out your date by placing too much attention on him with interview-style grilling. Asking questions is good, but firing one after the other at your date can be scary. You should be having a conversation, telling him about yourself too, not grilling him for his marriage-ability. (You can always get to that later).

Last but not least, the ultimate dating faux pas that is most likely to get you into trouble and spur you on to commit one of the other dating sins is drinking too much! Maybe you feel funnier or more outgoing for a while, but after a certain point, it’s just more likely to make you act like a moron. You’re more likely to spill into emotional histories and ex-boyfriend stories, and more likely to hop into bed with him without considering the consequences. So lay off the cosmopolitans (well, not completely), sit back, relax, and enjoy your date. And afterwards? Expect his call in two to three days.

4 Online Dating Tips For Women: Stay Safe And Have Fun!

December 27, 2011 Rachel Dating Advice for Women No comments

If you’re a woman looking to meet a new partner online then there’s a lot to think about! Online dating can be fun, but it’s also important to go about things the right way. Here are 5 top online dating tips for women that you should always follow.

1) Sign Up To Well-Known, Safe Dating Sites

There are two reasons why you’ll want to sign up with well known and larger dating sites. Firstly, they will usually have a broader selection of people for you to meet. Secondly, they’ll have extra safety measures in place. The biggest dating sites have started putting certain verification methods into place that help protect other members against those who aren’t truthful. They also have anonymous messaging, chat and video chat systems that can help you get to know potential dates before you ever give out any personal information. If you don’t get on with someone, you can simply block them.

2) Talk About The Right Things

Whether you’re chatting to someone face to face or over the internet, there are a few topics you’ll want to avoid. Don’t talk about any previous boyfriends during the first few dates, and don’t speak negatively about what bothers you or what you don’t like about yourself – this will really put guys off. So what should you talk about? You’ll want to talk about what interests you and what interests him. Remember, you don’t really know him until you talk to him more. And don’t be afraid to get a little flirty and have some fun!

3) Don’t Put Pressure On Him

Many people sign up to online dating sites because they know what they want out of life. However, when you do meet someone be careful not to overwhelm them. Most dating tips for women are going to tell you to take things slowly, don’t start talking about marriage and children straight away, but set up clear expectations about what you’re both looking for before you proceed.

5) Stay Safe

As a woman, it’s important that you take extra precautions to stay safe when you meet in person – and even beforehand. For a start, don’t give out your full name, address, phone number, place of work or any other personal information. When you do meet, tell a friend where you’re going and when, and make your own way to the public meeting place so your date doesn’t need to find out your address. When you go home, have a safe method of transportation lined up and decline a lift from your date. This is vital until you really feel you know your date well. These dating tips for women might not be the most exciting but they are absolutely essential to protect yourself.

Dating tips for women are all about thinking about what you say, protecting your safety, and having the best possible time! Remember to always look your best, both in your profile photo and on face to face dates, and use your gut instinct to warn you that you might be chatting to Mr. Wrong! Good luck!