Top 5 Dating Tips for Women

January 16, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice for Women No comments

Are you trying to land the perfect guy?  Are you looking for someone who will truly commit to you?  If so, follow these 5 Dating Tips for Women.

#1 – Don’t bring up an ex on an early date.

Ignore this dating tip at your own peril.  If you talk about an ex on one of your first dates, he is going to conclude that you either are not over your last boyfriend or that you are bitter.  In either case, he is not likely to want to get involved with someone who still talks about an ex.

Instead, focus on the man you are with.  Find out what he is interested in and what makes him tick.  Men are very selfish.  They want to talk about themselves, not the last guy you were with.

#2 – Be yourself

Too many women try to “impress” a guy by being someone they are not.  Unfortunately, you won’t be able to keep up the façade.  Instead, you are likely to revert to being yourself.  But if you have led him to believe that you are someone else, he will feel tricked.  While you want to put your best face forward, you ultimately have to be comfortable in your own skin.

#3 – Don’t talk about the future too soon

One of the biggest Dating Tips for Women is to not project a guy you are just getting to know into the future.  You shouldn’t bring up your desire for marriage and children on a first date!  Beyond that, don’t start fantasizing about “happily ever after,” because you will soon work these dreams into your conversations with the new guy.  Instead, have fun and enjoy the guy’s company.  If things seem compatible after a length of time, you still have time to work on the “relationship.”

#4 – Accept compliments

This scenario happens over an over.  A man meets a woman and says the first thing on his mind, “you look nice.”  The woman blushes and starts to explain just how much is wrong with the way she looks.  The hairdresser messed up the cut, the blouse she wanted to wear was at the drycleaner, and so on.

Guess what?  He doesn’t care!  He just thinks you look nice.

The only proper response to a compliment is “thank you.”

#5 – Have opinions

Too many Dating Tips for Women stress that you should always agree with your date.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.  It doesn’t bode well to fall for a guy who only wants a sycophant.  In the long run, you are going to want to be with a man who is strong enough to accept your opinions.  In fact, you want someone who will value your opinions and look to you for advice.  If you don’t have this, the relationship will be unsatisfactory to you.  So, don’t start the relationship by pretending that you don’t have any opinions.

So, those are my top five dating tips for women.  Keep them in mind the next time you go out with a man you are attracted to.

Blind Date vs Internet Date

January 15, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice No comments

Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so she sets you up with a blind date….a friend of a friend of a friend.  You, foolishly, accept.  Now there you are. It’s less than one hour since you were introduced.  You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food.  The entrée has not yet been served.  His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four…you aren’t into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim….you haven’t sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, “Volunteering is a waste of time because you can’t help ‘those people’ anyway.” You look at your watch; see that it’s only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation.  Been there?

Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don’t need to be introduced.  You already know this man.  You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests.  He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late…very late…where Has the time gone.

There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend “setting you up” and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t there?  Now which one would you rather have?

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Not Taking Chances: Online Dating Safety

January 15, 2012 Rachel Online Safety No comments

About 120,000 marriages every year started with online dating, that is according to Online Dating Magazine in 2007. Meeting possible love matches online is attracting more and more people. In the Pew Internet and American Life Project Report (released in March 2006), 31% of American adults have stated that they have used an online dating service.

But online dating is not without any risks. There are already numerous people who have fallen victims of online scammers. Scammers would often enter legitimate sites and befriend people, gaining their trusts. Eventually, they would secure enough personal information for them to take advantage, ask for money or worse steal your personality.

The online dating sites may say that they are doing background checks on their members. However, a background check cannot be performed that easily since there are different laws about this in different states. This is another reason why you should still be on guard when entering an online dating site.

Whenever you are entering any online dating sites, there are some precautions that you would have to keep in mind.

• Choose a good and reputable online dating site

It would be better to stick with paid online dating services. Free online dating sites are easier to access, even by dangerous people. Be aware if a particular dating site has privacy policies. These policies ensure that your personal information is safe from spammers and hackers. Also, if the site looks disorganized and lacks accurate information, then it may be better to visit other sites.

• Avoid giving too much information.

Be cautious when talking or chatting in online dating sites. Information like full name and home phone number can be used track your address and other personal information. Scammers, of course, would not ask for your social security number directly but there are ways for them to find out.

You could use a free email account (Yahoo!, Hotmail or Gmail) which is different from your regular email address. When giving out phone numbers, it is safer to use your cell phone number or you could even have the calls in Skype or in Yahoo!. If a person makes you uncomfortable or you noticed some strange behaviour and inconsistencies, then you could stop communicating with the person.

• Take it slow

You do not have to be in a hurry when setting the first meeting. Get to know each other first, through emails and calls. When communicating with emails, pay attention to the content of their messages. Are they answering any questions or they just rant on about themselves? Scammers would usually create a standard email which he may simultaneously use in different online sites. Another warning sign is when you cannot get them in the other end of the phone line. The number may be unreachable or blocked by the cellphone user.

If a meeting is already arranged, make sure that you would be meeting in a public place. You could tell some friends that you are meeting the person and also provide the necessary details of the meeting. Preferably, drive or go to the meeting place or location, alone. Avoid asking somebody or the date to pick you up and drop you off, they would know immediately where your house is.

There is no rush in online dating. It is important to take your time and get to know the person you are talking to. Do everything according to your own pace. Don’t be afraid to report suspicious users. Site administrators would be able to perform their duties well if they are properly informed.

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Using International Dating Services To Find Love

January 14, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice No comments

Can you really find that special person with international dating services? You have as much a chance of finding a special soul mate through a service like that, as a local dating service. In fact, your chances are probably higher. That’s because you’re not limited to a small geographical area!

If you haven’t met a special person in your local area, a local dating service can help you find people with similar interests.  But international dating services introduce you to singles around the world. This gives you a much wider selection to choose from. You’re no longer limited to those people you might see every day.

Whatever your reasons for using such a service, you need to be a little wary of those you meet.  At least at first, you should really question the motives of some of the other members. Some of the people from poorer countries especially might not be looking for love. They might just be looking for a way out of their situation.

No one can fault them for that.  But international dating services can’t really keep people out who want to join. They have no way of knowing if someone is looking for love or just a better life. Many people, however, are looking for both.

Some people use international dating services solely to find a way out of their country or their bad situation. And some people use those services to find those very people and take advantage of them. So be aware if someone you just met showers you with flattery and claims of love, that they probably just want to be rescued. Don’t fall for those tactics, and don’t get someone else’s hopes up falsely.

A benefit of using an international service is that you tend to get to know another person better before you meet them.  With local dating services, the trend is to meet online and then meet in person right away. When the person you’re talking to is across the world, that’s not possible.

With international friends, you must really get to know each other well online before either person feels it would be a good idea to meet.  Because meeting is so much more complicated and expensive, you’ll only meet someone when you really feel they’re a good match for you.  This saves a lot of time and can save some heartache, too.

If you meet people quickly with local dating services, it’s easy to be disappointed.  You meet online and have a few things in common, so you might both be enthusiastic about meeting.  It’s very easy to rush into meeting someone, partly because some people think that if you want to put off meeting them, there might be something wrong with you!

But with a person a thousand miles away or more, there’s no pressure at all. The online relationship can be allowed to grow naturally. You’ll discover early just how much you really have in common. Though a slower process, international dating services really can help you find that special person.

Senior Christian Dating

January 14, 2012 Rachel Senior Dating No comments

Dating as a senior and a Christian can make for an interesting time. Senior Christians will be used to the life they have lived and if they are recently separated from their long-term partner, things will be even more difficult. To make things easier, there are a number of ways to go about dating as a senior Christian. Whether looking in person at a church or Christian events or online on Christian singles and senior Christian dating sites, searching for a new partner is becoming easier every day.

Church Groups and Events

To start with, most Christian seniors will be part of a church family. This will mean they have contact with other Christians and people associated with them. This immediately gives them a group of people to socialise with and to start out on the dating scene. Begin by associating with friends and their friends or family. This will lead to further interactions with others and building relationships with the people around you. Look for other single senior Christians within the church or church family to spend time with or to build friendships or relationships with.

Churches and their affiliate churches run events. Churches with larger church families often run conferences or camps throughout the year to assist people in building faith and building relationships. Attend any outings or events the church runs to try and meet other like-minded single Christian seniors. This encourages meeting people with the same belief system and will make dating a lot easier to get into. When building relationships, be honest in what you’re looking for and maybe someone will respond in a positive way and a relationship will be found.

Internet Dating Sites

There are many dating sites on the internet and many of them have sections for the senior single. Completing a profile on a dating site means that other people who are searching for love will be able to learn something about the Christian senior single and be able to get in contact with them if desired. Senior Christian singles also have dedicated sites for dating. Look through available sites to find one that fits with how you feel about dating as a senior Christian. Single seniors shouldn’t be afraid to reach out and begin again on the dating scene. There are many people in the same situation looking for another senior single to build a relationship with.

If a senior Christian single is interested only in dating a Christian single, outlining that on a profile will assist in drawing someone of the same mindset. Dating as a Christian and as a senior doesn’t have to be difficult. Search profiles on the internet or simply attend the local church to find people who are like-minded and single. Knowing that a prospective partner is also Christian will help to raise the confidence of the single senior and encourage conversation and joint activities to discover if the pair are compatible.

As a Christian, it is important to meet someone who is of the same faith and has the same ideals. As a single searching for love, it is important to be honest in what you’re looking for. Don’t be afraid to enter the senior Christian dating scene with confidence.

Paid Memberships

January 13, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice No comments

Why should you consider using the paid dating sites when there are so many free options available these days?

Most sites now offer a free option as the site managers understand that people who are serious about getting results will pay the small fee that is required to upgrade and get the additional services that a paid membership offers for the chance to get exactly what is wanted.

Paid memberships have a considerably better success rate and this is because of the type of people who pay for their memberships.

The first one as just mentioned is because people who are serious will make the effort to contact others and strike up relationships. Not only will they make the effort but they also know that others in the paid memberships have the same desires and expectations and the chance of someone else making contact is also considerably better.

With a paid membership the members are screened first and this improves the quality of the ‘prospects’ and that makes a big difference at the end of the day when you are looking for a lasting relationship.

The fee for a paid membership is still far less than the cost of going out for dinner or to the movies or a show so if you are only looking at it from an economic point of view then it is quite possibly the best option you will ever get.

Millions of other people think so and for the sites to be so successful, as they have proven to be, this is part of the equation that must stack up.

People always look at the cost before deciding whether they want to invest their money and online dating sites are some of the most successful websites on the Internet simply because they deliver extremely good value for money.

The fact that the success rates of the paid memberships are so much higher should be enough to help make the right decision.

How To Have A Great Date Without The Expense

January 13, 2012 Rachel Great Date Ideas No comments

One very real barrier to a lot of people when it comes to their social lives is their wallet. A flash date can cost hundreds of dollars, and many people just don’t have that kind of money to play around with. But the good news is you can have a great date without all that expense.

The next time you want to take a man or woman out on a date, try doing something less costly, more creative and in a lot of ways, more fun. For instance, you could go for a walk along the water, play catch or Frisbee in a park, have a picnic or take a bike tour of your city or nearby trails.

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. There are no shortages of great date ideas that don’t come with a huge price tag attached. How about playing a board game or charades, while sipping wine and eating cheese? Or you could find your nearest ice-cream parlor and share a cone. Take a day trip and sleep in your car, go to the beach, check out a movie at the nearest drive-in, go for a hike or head down the river in a rented canoe.

Figuring out date ideas without the expense just takes a little bit more imagination on your part. Yet many people don’t even think about it, but instead drain their bank accounts, all in the name of love. They never consider the fact that a less expensive, but more imaginative date could be far more effective.

Think about it for a second. If you were asked out on a date, wouldn’t you appreciate it if someone did something out of the ordinary to impress you? It wouldn’t seem cheap, just more fun. Plus, most of the date ideas mentioned above have the added bonus of conversation time. The main idea of dating is to get to know someone a little better, and by doing something where conversation is likely, you’re way ahead of the game.

Don’t let money stop you from dating! Use some of the great date ideas mentioned in this article or think outside the box, and come up with your own. Money doesn’t have to be an issue. There are plenty of great date ideas without the expense, just waiting for you to try them out.

Find Your Perfect Match With Christian Online Dating

January 12, 2012 Rachel Christian Dating No comments

Any Christian in the singles world knows that it can be very difficult to find other Christians to date. Thousands of single Christians are turning to Christian Online Dating to help in the process.

The stereotypical way to meet other singles to date is to go to a bar. However, many Christians don’t want to visit bars. They’re often not interested in the kinds of people they’d meet at a bar. Christian online dating helps them bypass the wilder singles scene and find people compatible with their lifestyle.

If you live in a large city, there are so many people around, that it is difficult to find out enough about them before asking them out. It is not always obvious who values their Christian faith. In these cases, the online option can help you find people within your city who want to date other Christians.

In smaller cities, rural or suburban areas, it may be even more difficult to find potential partners. Singles in these areas depend even more on Christian online dating to find other singles following the Christian path. There are more and more using these online services.

The greatest benefit for those who use Christian online dating services is that the singles know immediately that they have shared values. It is possible to look at profiles of potential dates and see what their commitment level is. People can screen for denomination, desire for service, tithing habits, etc. to find those truly compatible.

This kind of online matching give Christian singles a great way to expand their social circles. They often offer opportunities for spiritual growth as well. Those who are registered on sites can join Bible discussion groups, for example.

Not only are these a great way to add to their scriptural knowledge, but they are also a great way to get to know other singles. Reading interactions in a chat room can be like having an initial conversation. You see what things are important, how the person interacts with others, and if they share your beliefs and understandings.

There are services that cater to specific denominations. For some Christians, finding a dating or socializing partner of the same faith is important. For these people, the denomination specific sites are a great idea.

It’s important to choose the right service; one that has compatible values. Examine the terms of use, also. See what they require upfront, and how many Christians from your local area use the service.  Most services offer a free trial period, so you can find out how many others from the area are involved before you join officially.

The prices for such services are generally modest. A month’s membership will cost about what a night out costs. For many, the much-simplified process of finding Christians with whom they can socialize offsets the cost of the services.

If you want to find Christians to date, but have trouble knowing where to look, Christian online dating may be the answer for you.

Your Online Photo

January 12, 2012 Rachel Online Dating Profile No comments

The importance of your photograph cannot be stressed enough.

Consider what you do when you look through online dating sites and that will give you some idea of what other people do.

Do you look at the photos first to decide whether you want to investigate a little further?

I’m sure you do and that is also what most people do.

People always look at the photos first to see if they can find a person who is visually appealing to them.

This doesn’t mean they are looking for a model but rather someone who looks interesting.

The type of photo that you have online can make all the difference between getting no one contacting you or having dozens of people who want to find out a little more about you.

Make sure the photo is clear and represents your personality.

There are so many people who submit photos that look like they have been taken at a police lineup that it’s amazing to think they will ever spark the interest of others.

If you add a photo that is unclear or out of focus then most people will probably assume that you are either lazy or don’t care whether you find someone or not.

Just as there are first impressions when you meet someone for the first time offline the same applies when people come across your profile on the dating sites.

You need to make a good first impression and a well groomed and smiling person will make a better impression than someone who doesn’t look happy and energetic.

Make a note of the profiles that attract your attention and see what it was that made you stop and take note. If you can do what those people have done then you are likely to get the same response from other people just like you.

Cougar Relationships: What makes them work?

January 11, 2012 Rachel Cougar Dating No comments

You know that an idea has the public imagination when you hear it described by a number of imaginative epithets. Older women-younger men romantic pairings somehow really have the public imagination. They get called Cougar Relationships (the cougar being the older woman, as you probably know from the Courteney Cox-starring TV show Cougar Town), May-December relationships (from the idea that the boy is seen to be in the spring of his life and the woman in the winter of hers) and other colorful terms. Actually, age disparity in relationships where the woman is older isn’t all that new. People have been talking about this for 20 years now. The fact that it still attracts a fair amount of press goes to show how a woman being older in a relationship is something people really consider strange.

Which is a shame; the only reason older women-younger men match-ups are even done today is that women today are freer and more independent than they ever were. Why, the Michael Douglas – Catherine Zeta Jones pair never attracts that description; only an Ashton Kutcher – Demi Moore relationship does. It isn’t an age difference per se that gets people wondering. It’s the fact that it’s the woman who is older. Why would a young man want to do that, they wonder. Is the man gay? Is he looking for a free ride? Is he somehow strange? It never occurs to people that fairness usually comes into play when you allow people to do what they really wish for. If people wish for love, if they don’t fear society, and if they have the means to be free, society will begin to witness just about every kind of relationship it is possible for people to have.

Some people like to point to how a relationship between an older man and a young woman is supposed to be somehow more natural. Emotionally speaking, men happen to take longer to develop than women, they say. A woman with an older man would naturally feel right at home – as he would be her emotional equal. An older man would also be financially more stable, they say. By that reasoning, older women -younger men pairings would have to be all wrong. An older woman would have to be far, far more emotionally mature than her younger partner. But that’s not really how it works.

Women in such relationships report that their partners usually are adequately mature; they also value how a younger man comes to them with no emotional baggage. Quite simply though, tastes just differ. Some men simply have an eye for the kind of mature and vulnerable beauty an older woman possesses.

For men who understand all this, a relationship with an older woman can be especially meaningful. Partners can contribute to a relationship in different ways. As long as a relationship is equal and allows room for both partners to contribute in whatever way they can, it really can work. As long as both partners understand how aging can change things or are at least open to handling all of it the right way, love certainly can work. It has before. And it will in the future.

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