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Online Dating Secrets

February 2, 2012 Rachel Dating Advice No comments

Online dating sites would often times boast about their success in connecting people and helping them build relationships. This claim could actually be true, since 120,000 marriages every year happen because on online dating, according to Online Dating Magazine (2007). But not everyone is successful in online dating. There are some users who, after more than a month of posting their profiles, would still not solicit any kind of response. What are the secrets of these 120,000 happy couples?

There are different tips on how you can make yourself noticeable in online dating sites. The most important is the opening line or headline. Whenever people are searching for matches and your profile is a suitable match, the first thing they would notice is the picture and the headline. This would make the first impression, and you want to give them a headline that would peak their interest.

Proper profile writing would even boost the number of people checking your profile. Your profile should be written creatively without fabricating any kind of information. For example, if you’re an outdoorsy person, you do not say that straight-away, you let them know how great you are in the outdoors. Tell something about the most memorable outdoor event you have done.

Avoid negativity when writing your profile. Exhibit confidence, but don’t sound too overconfident or perfect. Crazy as it sounds, nobody wants to connect with somebody who is too perfect. Some would say that this is a sign of scam or fraud, while others say that they are shy to contact “perfect” people.

Your profile should express your characteristics and what kind of relationship you are after. Indicate good characteristics, but also show that you have quirkiness in your personality, too. Don’t try to be somebody you are not. To encourage them to reply or respond, in your profile invite them to send you a message or chat with you.

Building relationships does not only rely on how your profile is written. Whenever you received an email from a person that does not attract you (based on the photo), do not disregard the person immediately. Read the person’s profile, first. When responding to their messages, be polite. Being uninterested does not give you any excuse to be hurtful and insensitive of other people’s feelings.

If you have sent a message and the person does not reply, be patient. It’s possible that he or she has received lot of messages and its taking him a while to answer them all. Actually, you could send messages to several people at once. Normally, you would be able to get one reply out of five messages sent.

When communicating, avoid talking about personal things like health problems, family issues and financial problems. After all, who would like to talk about these stories when you have just known each other. As the relationship progress, it is your choice to open up without giving away too much personal identification or information.

If you have met the person that you think is suitable for you, then you could start meeting online. The biggest problem of some online dating users is that they think that online dating means online/ virtual affair. Some members would often say that their online relationship is good, meeting face to face will just make the good things bad. That is not true. Remember your objective which is building relationships. You can never reach that and become successful if you’re always stuck on the idea that everything is virtual/ make-believe. Because they are not and more than 120,000 people every year agree with you.

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Winning The ‘Dating Game’ Every Time

January 3, 2012 Rachel Dating Tactics No comments

Plans are laid, your mouth is dry, and somehow you just can’t stop your hands from shaking. You’re supposed to be picking your date up in an hour, yet your hair won’t do what you want, your palms are sweaty and nervous energy surrounds your body like a cocoon.

Dating is like a game, the more you do it, the better you get. Some people have natural talent when it comes to dating, and some people have to try, try and try again. But like a game, you have a much better chance of winning if you keep in mind the rules of play.

Look Your Best

Looks aren’t everything, but good hygiene, neat appearance and a pleasant body odor can come in handy when playing the dating game. Take some time to put yourself together. Your date will appreciate the effort, and it shows that you care about your appearance.

Confidence is a Man’s or Woman’s Best Friend

To win the dating game every time, confidence is required. Confidence is sexy. Both men and women are attracted to it, so it’s important that you gain some. This doesn’t mean you should be cocky, egotistical or jerky. It just means you should seem like you’re confident being you, and all that entails.

Stimulating Conversation

You’ll gain some extra points in the dating game if you can make your date laugh, talk and enjoy themselves through conversation. If you can keep your date interested, the second date is just around the corner. Pull out some of your amusing or funny stories, and ask your date some questions, without getting too personal. Don’t talk about yourself too much either. Instead, just try to go with the flow, and keep the conversation as natural and free flowing as possible, without any awkward silences.

Smile

Smiling alone can help you win a second date. Smiling is attractive, and puts people at ease. Try to smile as often as possible, without seeming like a grinning lunatic.

Manners

Use your manners and be polite. Nothing is as big a turn off as someone who is rude and obnoxious. If you want to woo your date then it’s in your best interests to be as polite as possible, whenever possible.

By playing by the rules, you too can win the dating game every time and earn yourself a second, third or fourth date.

Tweaking A Bit: Making Your Online Dating Profile Noticed

January 1, 2012 Rachel Online Dating Profile No comments

Getting responses from online dating sites would depend on how you “advertise” yourself.  Your online dating profile would attract your possible matches.  Because there are too many member users, getting your profile noticed may be a problem.  Whenever you are creating your user profile in any online dating site, honesty should be exercised.  Any kind of relationship is always rooted on honesty and trust. An honest profile means you are not changing any personal information just to attract more people.

• Photos

Studies showed that men are more visually-oriented while women would prefer checking the profile description.  Photos are important since these will be what people would keep pictured in their mind whenever they are chatting with you.  It may not be that important to you but it is definitely important to people who would be viewing your profile.

If you want people to know your special interests like hiking or outdoor trekking then let your photos speak for you.  This would let people know something about you immediately and get the attention of those who have similar interests. But avoid posting a picture where users could barely recognize your face compared with the giant tree beside you.  Post the most recent one.

• Personal information

You do not have to use your full name, this is an important precaution since a full name and home phone number could be used to trace your home address and other important information.  Avoid using names like “nutty” and similar nicks, such names would give a different impression.  Don’t just list the good things about you, you do not want to sound “too perfect,” they may mistake you for a scammer. Avoid writing sob stories like recent break-up or bitter previous relationships.  Don’t make it too long.

• Caption/headers

Usually, profiles would need something that would catch the eye of the person looking at the database.  Nobody wants to read a profile that is shouting with desperation like “I’m begging you to check my profile.”  Boring requests like “please check my profile,” is not getting any attention either.  Overconfident headings like “I’m the sexiest man ever,” will sure capture interest but will fail to retain it if your photo and personal info do not match.  The best thing to do is write a creative heading.  You could change it from time to time.  Make sure to provide some thought on it, you could even check favourite books if they may have something that would match your personality.

• Check, edit and update

Check your profile.  The reason why you may not be getting any messages is that your profile may have incorrect grammar or spelling. Aside from that, you can change or tweak it a bit.  Maintain a positive attitude in your profile.

When writing your online dating profile, make sure that it is simple and sincere.  Always focus on what you want.  Identifying what you want makes it easier for you to write your profile.  Besides, knowing your prospect would be able to help you understand who you are and what you want.